Creating my reality through language

I can choose to see life through the lens of love and compassion, and to believe that everyone is doing the best they can, with what they have, where they are. And because I choose this way of being, I will see what I want to see because I've made it my mission to create that as my reality. The same goes for whether you're looking for confirmation that you don't belong or that you're not enough; you'll always find it because you've made that your goal. (Thanks Brene Brown for the always wise words!)

For awhile, I've heard this phrase in trainings and development workshops at the yoga studio I teach at: "What I say, creates." But it only recently landed for me. One of the teachers gave the example, "If I tell you this person is a great friend--supportive, loving, fun--you'll engage this person through the lens of what I've created for you with language. If I were to say the exact opposite, that this person is backstabbing and conniving, you may never engage that person or you'll engage them thinking they're about to screw you over." This was an actual epiphany for me. 

It's got me thinking about all the areas of my life in which I may be creating something unintentionally because of the words I've chosen. Am I creating more suffering and discontent because of my lack of intentional language? What am I creating in my life because of the words I knowingly or unknowingly choose? How can I be more conscious of the sacred practice of language and communication? Where are the areas that a simple rephrasing of language and, thus, a reframing of reality could be a total life changer? 

You see, we're always creating--moment to moment, interaction to interaction. So ask yourself: what do you WANT to create? And choose that. Choose to say no when you really want to because of the ease it creates for you later, choose to see that people really are trying their best and you'll see that the world isn't so bad after all, choose to believe that you ARE worthy and enough...because you are! In all situations, you have a choice to create what you want to create, to see what you want to see, because of the words you choose. Words are more impactful than we realize. And the power of choice is the not-so-subtle tool that can make all the difference. 

Feeling free

What does being free look like to you? I'm not talking politically here. I'm talking about in your own, every day life. What does freedom feel like to you? When I sit silently and listen to what's happening inside my mind and my body, I eventually come to a point of silence. Eventually being the key word; it does not come easily or without releasing some fits of emotion. But when that silence finally hits, it's deafening. Silence is freeing, for me. I can finally feel what is truest to me, my Self. Your body can't lie to you. It literally doesn't know how. We can override our minds, but we can't override how the unfaithfulness to our values is stored in the body. Eventually our bodies will give away under the stress, the fake pretenses, the lying and pretending. It may manifest as an actual illness. It may manifest as a constant, nagging pain that eventually screams and beats you up (hello, lower back pain). 

When I envision being free, it feels like sitting in an open field of green grass, glittering gold in the sunlight. I can hear the whooshing as the wind gently grazes my face and rustles the blades through the valley. And the smells! Everything smells so fresh, so intensely fresh. There are no man-made structures in sight, no sounds besides those of birds and trees and wind and bees. I am alone in nature. I am nature. A reminder of union that I so desperately need right now. I am not separate. I am a child of the divine. The one who made everything around me also made me. 

Today, for just five minutes, sit down and close your eyes. Do not hold your phone. Don't even have your phone close to you. Get comfy on the floor or in a chair. Tailbone roots to earth. Crown of head lengthens towards ceiling. Breathe. Can you feel it? That breath is YOUR truth. Notice where it sticks. Notice where it feels tight and not smooth. Then see where you can soften. Are the shoulders by the ears? Gently release them. Is the skin across your forehead scrunched? Release it. Bring awareness to the breath once more. The coolness of the inhale, warmth of the exhale. Your breath brings life to your cells. Every tissue, every organ, every system in your body is working to keep you here, alive. You are made of strength. You are made of life. You are made of love. Feel it. You are love.